Monday, February 14, 2005

Love Turned 5 Today

It was 5 years ago today that my life took a sudden turn, and I went barreling down a path that led to this moment, right now. Valentine’s day 2000 was spent like a lot of other days: I got up, went to school, probably slept through algebra and geometry, got gumballs from Liz on break, played euchre with Mel and Steve and Jamie on spare, munched on a bruised green apple for lunch, and passed notes during writer’s craft. I probably gave out 30 valentines (I think Toy Story was that year’s theme), and treat bags filled with goodies. At home, I probably locked myself in my room, turned up the Smashing Pumpkins real loud to drown out the Spice Girls, and ignored the homework that I’d probably left in my locker anyway. It was a Wednesday, and it was snowing awfully hard by the time I was home from school. It was starting to look like the next day would be gold: a snow day. It meant being trapped indoors because the roads around our country home were unnavigable, but that was okay by me, because my best friend lived in the same neighbourhood, and no snow ever kept us apart. Hump days were good to me back in high school, for the first part of it, it meant Party of Five night, a time to get together with friends, and have a good cry. When Party of Five was cancelled, Wednesday nights became Dawson’s Creek night.

By the white-out conditions outside, I assumed that I would be watching Dawson’s Creek alone this particular Wednesday night, and that was if I was lucky enough to have the power hold out that long. But after dinner came a familiar phone call from a good guy friend of mine, with a plea: Wednesday night just wouldn’t be the same without me, he’d saved a seat on his couch just for me, yadda, yadda, yadda.

So, silly girl that I was, I got in my Mom’s van, and slowly made my way across town just to watch Dawson’s Creek. I didn’t really think about why this friend of mine was so insistent that I risk my neck to get to his house, I just turned on the radio and tried not to get stuck in any ditches. The episode that night, Valentine’s Day Massacre, was probably very satisfying to me since it’s when Pacey first admits he likes Joey (yay!), and I’d like to say that I remember everything about it, and everything about that night, but I don’t. As far as I knew, it was a night just like any other. I brought him a Valentine, and a bag of candy.

What I didn’t know was that on this day, February 14, 2000, my friend Jason had mustered up the courage to make a confession a la Pacey. But he didn’t do it in words. He didn’t tell me he liked me, or that he wanted to go out with me, or any of those logical choices. Instead, just as I was about to head home, he put a box in my hands. A velvet box. The kind with jewelry inside.

This flustered me, and probably for the one and only time in my life, I was without words. I think I tried to refuse it. I felt it was an inappropriate gift between friends, and he wasn’t making any ‘more than friends’ statements. He insisted that it was for me, that he’d picked it out himself and wanted me to have it. So, I kissed him on the cheek, and left. The drive home was probably more shaky than just the snow would allow for. The wheels were set in motion.

The next day, he copped to wanting to be more than friends. We had our first kiss and our first sexual encounter, and probably our first fight, and all before the next week’s Dawson’s Creek had aired. We still haven’t had an official date, but I think we’re doing okay. Now it’s been 5 years and I can’t believe how much has changed, and how much has not. No more Dawson’s Creek, although Wednesday nights are Gilmore Girls nights now: Kirsten&Charlie-Pacey&Joey-Luke&Lorelai, and all the while, Jay&Jay. In these past 5 years, we’ve had 16 jobs between us, 3 homes shared together, 1 University degree, a foreign wedding and a familiar reception, dozens of good friends, only 2 small fires, 37 hair colours, 3 surgeries, more good times than bad, and a lot of luck.


Happy anniversary, Jason, and here’s hoping we survive another 5 years of this crazy, kamikaze-style love that we’ve got going. xo

27 comments:

BeckyBumbleFuck said...

Mmmm, very sweet...happy anniversary!

Harry said...

Just to keep you abreast of how you are corrupting our youth (and here it is, almost noon, and I just thought of abreast; I am getting old, but I ain't dead yet), I mentioned to my son Eli your atypical conversations with Jason. I paraphrased the way you said "Goodnight, dear" followed by his response of "Fuck you in the ear," and my 17 yo's eyes lit up. He then told me how he was amazed at his girlfriend's grandparent's insane banter that sounded so similar. I'm thinking, keep it up and you two will last a long time.


IT being the humor...damn! I know what you just thought.

Queen Of Pink said...

Awwww, Happy Anniversary!!

Many, many more goat killing years to you guys!!

Monica said...

AWWWWWW Happy Anniversary!!
I never saw you before, now you have a face!(except the kiddie pictures!!!)

I got David some hallmark holiday things, a GIANT card, candy and a t-shirt that says "I do my own stunts" but he forgot, he's really bad at it and both of us thought he'd be in the hospital by now :)

HAPPY VD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Chick said...

Congrats!!!

True love (& all the sappiness that entails) is the friggin' best. Enjoy it all!!

Jay said...

Haha Harry...it....

I didn't get Jason a damn thing. We don't really gift each other very often, except when it's not expected. We're weird like that. Besides the first VD present, he's only given me one, and it was a gift certificate to a lingerie store...hmmm...

I am making dinner though, which doesn't seem like much, since I make him dinner every night, but I made him a card too and it says "there's a heart on it, that's how you know it's for Valentine's day". Ah yes, romance is alive and well!

Ivy said...

*sniff sniff*

what a sweet story!

Here to another 5 more year.

Vics said...

Awwwwwwwwww, you have an actual sweetie.
That's cool.

for the record - I'm not totally anti-valentines, but like xmas etc i'm anti-commercialism...
...slightly.

Jay said...

Yeah, we're all a bunch of Commies until it comes to getting gifts, and then we're all gimme gimme gimme

:)

makuahine said...

awww, congratulations :)

pinkme said...

Congrats! How sweet it is to be in love. I know you will have many more to come.
Happy Heart Day!

Ms Mac said...

Awww, how lovely! You must have something the rest of us haven't got when a man gives you jewellery before you put out! ;-)
All the very best to both of you!

ps. Love, love, love the red lippie!

Jay said...

Mizzzzz Mac, you are too funny. But yeah, I do have a little sumthin sumthin going for me :)

Woody said...

Happy Valentines Day, and Happier Anniversary.

Robin Monroe said...

I'm glad to find such lovely pics of you and Jason (what - no more mullet Jason??)! I just KNEW you guys would be cute! Now, I can tell my Randy that, at long last, our Canadian alter-ego's have grown-up faces (and that they're cute like us!) Although I had quite a laugh imagining the toddler version of Jay in those white furry hoor boots telling all the hilariously crass stories you tell! Goddammit - I gotta figure out how to get pics on my blog. I'm suffering from blog-envy. P.S. I wish I could cook!! It's Chinese take-out for us tonite. I hope the fourtune cookie says something lovey.

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JeN said...

Hmm... so now I can put a face to the psychos!
Here is my VD (yeah, that's right, "VD") gift to you guys. Feel free to use them accordingly.

-->Love Coupons<--

Robin Monroe said...

Argh! Damn blogger comments page messes up all the time. Tried to delete my duplicate posts but to no avail. Sooooo sorry for my redundancy! The second and third posts were just in case you didn't hear me the first time! I must confess: when pages are too slow to load, I get an overzellous trigger finger. I figure if a double click won't do it, a quadruple click just might.

Jay said...

a) it's funny, I'd posted pics of us before, but I guess it was long enough ago to have flown under the radar...didn't know people were so curious!

b) Robin, Jason would probably love your chinese take-out as much as he loves all my meals...and in fact, he could probably eat my dinner tonight, and still show up at your place hungry

c) don't apologize for the multi-comments, I do that all the time, and embarrassingly, had already done so on the post just below!

Jay said...

p.s. great coupons, JeN

transience said...

such a beautiful couple, jay and jay. here's to many more crazy moments together. you two are blessed.

Anonymous said...

Jamie,

Happy Anniversary!

Can't wait to get home tonight, sounds like I'm in store for special treats.

Here's to forever more

-Husband

xo

Jay said...

Hey Jason:

Fuck you right in the ear.

Cut out all the mushy crap or the only thing you'll be coming home to is that special saute I warned you about this morning.

citygurl said...

you guys are too freakin' adorable...I'm gonna vomit. ;)

colleen said...

ok, so first. happy anniversary and all that stuff.

but i'm really commenting to tell you that you look EXACTLY like I pictured you. How odd is that??

Kim said...

Awwwww! That was sickening sweet! Only two small fires? Great post Jay.